Since the inception of mankind, there have been various changes in every aspect of life and telling a lie has been interminable. We have become accustomed to relishing the lies we tell ourselves and to others on a frequent basis. How long will we run from the lies till they catch up to us? Even so, do we intend to come clean when it does? I fear not. By a little effort, we could make truthfulness the core of our social interaction. At first, it may sound ludicrous as the people around you would not contemplate before we make a judgment. But we shouldn’t expect any less if we are to surge ahead with this ideology after all “truth is bitter”.
What they do not understand – and what you must understand – is that telling a lie does not enhance tomorrow, it makes us lose a part of today. It helps us tackle the problem for the instant, but also brings us havoc the next time the lie catches up to us. There’s no greater ignorance than to accept something you don’t know. Look at relationships today, lying – directly or indirectly has become a part of it. Do they not know the virtues to be followed while they bond with a fellow human? Or is it the aforementioned ignorance? What lies within is the power to comprehend other’s feelings and reciprocate accordingly – it makes us different from animals. Animals lack the ability to understand and reason, so they live to eat and reproduce. On the other hand, we have a choice. When we tell a lie, a trickle of guilt flows through our veins and alters our body language; some are good at concealing it – but we had a choice at first. Our intuition makes us pause for a moment; the urge to lie is decided in that split second. We develop to a stage where we feel no remorse, no matter what is at stake. But if we did speak the truth, we have nothing to worry – the best part about it is we don’t have to remember it. It symbolizes a small part of us that leads to being an emotion. As Van Gogh quotes “Little emotions are the great captains of our lives and we obey them without realizing it.”
There’s a myth related to lying – people fear they have more to lose admitting to the truth. A general outlook into this myth would convey that people are either intimidated, want to shift the blame or want to feel better. All these occur to impress the other person in some way. We fear, to tell the truth as it may hurt or cause disharmony. But little do they realize, keeping the truth away worsens the situation. Sometimes we need to accept how it is – shifting the blame is a cowardice act signifying that you can’t stand up for yourself. Lying due to insecurity, on the other hand, is to reassure oneself but we eventually fall for our own deception.
We need to have the audacity to speak the truth, even when the situation is not in our favor – simply because it reflects our moral view. People may or may not empathize with the hard truth, but they would certainly have a good perception of the person who speaks the truth rather than the one who lies. Trust would be easier to come by for a truthful person since they are less likely to exploit it. All this being said; the big question remains whether we are true to our inner belief. One of the meanings of truth is to be true to oneself. Most of us have an inner and outer agenda. Our motives vary depending on what we need. We need to examine who we are deep down. Has the outer scorecard made us be the person we were once afraid of? Perhaps. This is where we need to push our personal yearnings aside and be true to ourselves; to satisfy our inner scorecard. At the end of each day, we can’t always expect to be happy; we can rather wish to have peace of mind – the one that lets us sleep peacefully. After all, the truth shall set you free.